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The Bookshelf → Maintaining Healthy Relationships

Preview Points

  • Relationships with other people are a mainstay of life.
  • There are relationships with friends and family, colleagues, and others in the world.



  1. Be yourself.
  2. Keep your life balanced.
  3. Negotiate boundaries.
  4. Re-evaluate boundaries.
  5. Express needs.
  6. Express positive feelings.
  7. Express negative feelings.
  8. Maintain a balance of power and authority.
  9. Avoid assumptions.
  10. Talk things out.
  11. Be fair when you argue.
  12. Question your jealousy.


  1. Expect a period of grieving.
  2. Seek the support of friends.
  3. Limit time alone.
  4. Time heals, eventually.
  5. Spoil yourself a little.
  6. Create a balance of life activities—with family, friends, school, work, and hobbies.
  7. Exercise and eat right.
  8. Get professional support.

Concluding Points

  • Healthy relationships are an important part of life, but they’re also not the be-all, end-all of life.
  • Relationships should not involve compromising one’s sense of values or self.
  • Relationships need good communication and mutual respect to work well.


Bertholf, S. (1995). Maintaining Healthy Relationships. University Counseling Services.

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